Saturday, 17 August 2013

Dad


I don't know how to write this post.
But I am sharing with my quilting community that my Dad is gone. He passed last week.

We are all grateful that his suffering is over. (Want to vent about liver cancer? I'm here for you. Really.) But the truth is, I am not grateful at all that he is not here. It is simply not possible that he is not here.

He was funny, smart and engaging. Quietly and without fanfare, he listened to people and held their hands when they needed it most. He and my mother loved each other dearly, and I am grateful to have had them as my parents, as they modeled not only a wonderful marriage, but also how to inject each day with meaning, and how to be kind and thoughtful members of a community. I love you, Dad.


9 comments:

Susan Owenby said...

I'm really sorry to read this. My dad recently passed from a nasty cancer that ate nearly all of his insides. Like you, I was relieved that he was released from the severe pain that came with it, but angry that he had it in the first place. It is an unfair disease and oh so difficult. I wish you and your family the best with your healing process.

Kim said...

So sorry for your loss, you were blessed with a loving wonderful Dad I hope that offers some comfort in your coming days of mourning.
Celebrate his life in the coming days with your family and friends and remember him warmly in your heart forever.

Your sewing and quilting life will be there to help get you through too

Liz said...

Oh I'm so sorry - I had been meaning to see how you were going after your last post. Not good it seems. Cuddle your family, have a cry, stroke your fabric. I can't offer anything else, but know I'm thinking of you.

Marla said...

I am saddened to hear about your dad. Cancer sucks! I'm sending loving/comfort vibes your way and will be thinking about you.

RozWarren said...

I am so sorry. My dad died at age 87 after a long and full life, and he died quickly and without pain, and I STILL felt wretched. My heart goes out to you.

made by ChrissieD said...

I really feel for you, my Dad died a cruel and painful death (COPD, lung and bladder cancer) on 5 May 2012 and it was agonising to watch, especially the final hours. Sewing and blogging have got me through the last 15 difficult months - keeping my hands and head busy has helped keep me sane. I miss him daily but the painful grief has got easier to live with as each week has passed. I hope you find comfort and have lots of supportive family and friends around you over the coming months :)

Archie the wonder dog said...

I'm so sorry to hear your news - I'm thinking of you and your family xxxx

Live a Colorful Life said...

I'm so sorry to read about your loss. I can tell from this picture that your father must have been warm and wonderful. I don't even know what words to say. When our first grandchild died, we found out that people often don't know WHAT to say. One of our friends came up to us with a hug and just said, "Life just sucks sometimes..." So true. You have been in my thoughts even more than usually in the last couple of days and I'm sure this must be why. When you are ready, I'd love to have a long email chat...

hydeeannsews said...

there are no words for loss like this. ((hugs)) the more we love, the more we miss. i'm sure you are feeling the depth of your love measured out in pain right now. he had a beautiful smile!